Dates are always good fun; they present the perfect opportunity for you to put your best foot forward and big yourself up to the person sitting opposite you. However, going on a date is all about balance, and you need to master talking about yourself without sounding like too much of a dick. Here’s how.
How To Talk About Yourself On A Date
If you’re a single lad, knowing how to talk the talk well on a date is a skill you should have mastered by now. However, we’ve found that for a lot of boys the one thing standing in the way of a successful date is their ego. So how do you do it? Well, it’s all about finding a balance for the first date conversation; you need to talk about yourself the same amount as she talks about herself so that the date isn’t completely one-sided.
There are many things to talk about on a date, so you should never feel like you have to try too hard to impress her – she’ll be able to read this all over you. The best trick for mastering how to get girls to like you is by being yourself. If you sit there and big yourself up so much, the only thing she is likely to think about you is how much of a d*ck you are. First impressions are everything, so you need to avoid this as much as you can.
We have a whole load of first date advice to give you boys, from what to say on a first date and first date conversation starters to the things not to say on a date at all. With these tips, you should be able to secure that all-important second date without her thinking you’re too much of a d*ck.
Confident, Not Cocky
We’d say you’d be surprised at how many boys fall at this first hurdle, but thinking about it, you’re probably not surprised at all. It’s the most common mistake that boys make on a first date. There is a very fine line between being confident and being cocky, but as fine as this line may be, you do not want to cross it. There is nothing worse than a guy who thinks the sun shines out of his arse, so please don’t let this be you.
Instead of cockiness, we do like a guy who can hold his own, so, by all means, you can be confident in the way that you present yourself. To do this without being cocky, talk about what are good at without stating how you are the best or without putting anyone else down. You may think that you are the only person in the world who can do something well, but you’re not. Stay in your lane.
Don’t Talk About Your Ex
Why would you want to anyway? She’s an ex for a reason, and if you want any chance of making things work on this date then you need to leave her in the past (where she belongs). Not only this, but what on earth makes you think that she is going to want to hear about your ex either? She doesn’t. This will only make you look like a d*ck who is stuck in the bitter past.
Don’t Talk Figures
We have broken this down into three separate categories of talking figures. 1) money 2) body figures and 3) your sexual figures.
To put it simply, if you find yourself a girl who is more into how much money you make, what are your assets are and how many materialistic things you own, she is not the right kind of girl for you. In fact, she’s not the right kind of girl for anyone. Any respectable girl with a genuine interest in finding someone to stick with won’t care about the money you’re making or what kind of car you drive. She will be much more interested in your personality and nature, so show her that side of you. Not only does she not want to hear it, it also makes you look like a massive egocentric d*ck – something you want to avoid at all costs, especially when on a first date.
Secondly, first date topics should never venture to a conversation about your body, her body or anyone else’s body. Naturally, there are a few exceptions to this rule such as discussing gym routines or body goals etc, but this should never turn into a crude thing. You can tell her she looks nice, but don’t stare at her assets all night. You can flex a little muscle here or there, but don’t bang on about how ‘big’ you are – in any way. It’s also a really bad idea to talk about other women in a sexual way, even if you’re making comments about how ‘fit’ a celebrity is. You need to learn how to make conversation that makes your date feel good about herself, so avoid bigging up everyone else which will consequently make her feel small.
Finally, at no point on your first date should you bring up your past sexual partners or what is more commonly known as your ‘body count’. Of all the things to talk about on a first date, this is not it. To be quite honest with you, no matter what number it is, you’ll simply look stupid telling her either way. Too many, you’re a ‘player’; too little, you’re wet. Plus, why would you even want her to know? If she asks, divert the conversation ASAP.
It’s Not All About You
If you want to sit there for an hour and talk about yourself, go to a therapist, not on a date. If you can’t take one hour without taking your head out of your arse, you really shouldn’t be going on a date in the first place.
One of our top first date tips is to keep the balance even between the amount you talk about yourselves. It’s obviously ok to talk about yourself enough for her to understand who you are as a person, but there is a thing as too much. As well as telling her about yourself, allow her the chance to tell you about herself too, and when she does, take an interest! Even if you don’t have any interest in what she’s saying (which we hope isn’t the case), it’s easy enough to pretend you do.
Conversation, not competition. When you’re on a date you shouldn’t want to ‘one-up’ her on everything she says. Sometimes it’s nice to not steal her thunder. It’s also polite.
Introduce, Don’t Ignore
Here is another classic mistake that boys tend to make on dates. If you take her somewhere where you are likely to bump into people you know, it’s only right to introduce her. Don’t make her sit there feeling like an irrelevant lemon – introduce her so she feels more involved. If you’re really against doing this, simply take her somewhere where the chances of you seeing anyone you know are zero to none.
On That Note
Date etiquette isn’t too hard to grasp. It takes simple manners and common sense to make things go smoothly without talking or acting like a d*ck. We hope this has given you some direction of the things to say on a first date and things you should avoid saying or doing, so hopefully, a second date is in the cards for you. Knowing what to talk about on a date has never been easier.
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